The day itself
In the walled garden, under the old pear tree.
Elderflower and fizz on the lawn while the band warms up.
Long tables in the orangery. Considerably too much bread.
In the barn until the lights come on.
How we got here
A mutual friend’s housewarming in Peckham. We spent the evening arguing about a film neither of us had finished.
A flat with bad windows, a cat called Pudding, and the beginning of the garden habit.
Engaged on a cold beach in Deal, entirely without ceremony, which suited us.
This, with all of you.
What to wear
Garden party. Bright colours are very welcome and there are no rules about white. The lawn is soft, so leave the stilettos at home.
A few favourites
Getting there
Halcyon House, Bridge Road, Chilham, Kent CT4 8DB
Chilham station is eleven minutes’ walk. Trains from London St Pancras take an hour.
Free on site. Cars may be left overnight and collected before noon.
Our prenup film
Shot on a grey morning in spring, a year before the day.
Share the day
#PhoebeAndSilas
Tag your photos and we'll find them all afterwards.
Good to know
Yes. There is a room with beds and a sitter from eight o’clock for anyone who needs it.
No list. If you would like to give something, we are saving towards a greenhouse.
Rooms are held at The Woolpack in Chilham under our names until March.
Tell us on the RSVP form and the kitchen will sort it out.